Glossary entry

English term or phrase:

Resilience is making your goals your meaning going forward

English answer:

being resilient is about turning negatives (setbacks) into positive goals for the future

Added to glossary by Yvonne Gallagher
May 13, 2022 18:58
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English term

Resilience is making your goals your meaning going forward

English Social Sciences General / Conversation / Greetings / Letters resilience
Dear colleagues, I find it difficult to grasp the meaning of this sentence: “Resilience is making your goals your meaning going forward”
In particular, I don’t know how to interpret syntactically – and semantically – the part “your meaning going forward”…
This sentence is inside a pullout positioned next to the passage below.
Thank you so much for any hint!
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Resilience is about bouncing back from setbacks. What does this mean? It means turning a setback into a future goal. For example, let’s say that the setback is divorce. You might regret that the marriage has ended, but you can then shift from your regrets to targeting the future goals that you will pursue. This can be ensuring that you can continue being a good parent, drawing on your social support, developing new interests or pursuing old interests, and keeping yourself mentally and physically healthy. Every time you think about a problem, turn it into thinking about a goal.

Pullout:
Regrets are focused on making the problem the meaning of your life.
Resilience is making your goals your meaning going forward
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May 18, 2022 18:12: Yvonne Gallagher Created KOG entry

Discussion

haribert (asker) May 18, 2022:
Dear colleagues, thank you so much to all of you for your valuable help!
Anastasia Kalantzi May 16, 2022:
Tony is right Making your goals your meaning for the future, this is the fundamental philosophy of resilience.
Alaíde Assunção May 14, 2022:
It seems a definition. I think it means "resilience is making your goals the reason for moving forward."
haribert (asker) May 13, 2022:
Thank you AllegroTrans, for your opinion!
AllegroTrans May 13, 2022:
I agree with Tony
haribert (asker) May 13, 2022:
Tony, thank you so much! Maybe you can post an answer, so I can give you points!
Thanks again!
Tony M May 13, 2022:
@ Asker I think you'd do better to consider the parts differently:
"...making your goals your meaning" = ensuring that everything you do is focussed on your goals and "going forward" = as you advance / progress / move forward — towards the /your future.

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being resilient is about turning negatives (setbacks)into positive goals

Yes, I agree with Tony

Basically, in the pullout, the author is contrasting regrets and remaining stuck in the past and resilience, ready to move forward

"Regrets are focused on making the problem the meaning of your life".> you remain stuck with your problems or setbacks

"Resilience is making your goals your meaning going forward" > you bounce back by deciding you will find a way to overcome your setback/problem and make that your goal so you can move forward

In this way you are
"keeping yourself mentally and physically healthy. Every time you think about a problem, turn it into thinking about a goal."

The author gives the example of a setback of divorce. You could remain regretful and depressed, lamenting the divorce and remaining stuck in that position OR
you could think about overcoming the problem instead. For example, continue to be a good parent post-divorce.

A negative becomes a positive goal so you can move forward .






































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Glad to have helped. I waited for Tony to post an answer but it seemed he wasn't going to...

Note from asker:
Thank you so much, Yvonne, for your contribution!
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4 KudoZ points awarded for this answer. Comment: "Dear Yvonne, thank you so much for your valuable help! Many thanks also to all other colleagues, especially to Tony."
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The ability to recover from setbacks, adapt well to change, and keep going in the face of adversity


To understand this term better we have to know who a resilient person is: Being resilient is about being able to bounce back from hard things quickly. Resilient people are able to work through hard times, learn from them and grow stronger and more capable to overcome hard things in the future.
the 3 main traits of resilient people are acceptance, purpose, and flexibility: They accept things the way they are or see things the way they are. They have a purpose or are focused on a goal, this acts as a motivation for them to continue despite difficulties and are flexible, so when circumstances change, they easily find ways to adapt and develop new strategies to meet their goals
Example sentence:

With amazing resilience John started life afresh after the collapse of his business, he started making shoes and within 7 years his shop became the biggest shoe shop in town.

Note from asker:
Thank you, Emmanuel, for your contribution!
Peer comment(s):

neutral philgoddard : The question is not just about resilience.
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neutral AllegroTrans : All this may be true but TonyM has provided an adequate explanation in the discussion box; the asker's problem was more likely about the construction of the phrase
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Resilient people reappraise a difficult situation and look for meaningful opportunities within it.

An individual’s resilience is dictated by a combination of genetics, personal history, environment and situational context. So far, researches have found the genetic part to be relatively small.
The most significant determinant of resilience — noted in nearly every review or study of resilience in the last 50 years — is the quality of our close personal relationships, especially with parents and primary caregivers. Early attachments to parents play a crucial, lifelong role in human adaptation.
How loved you felt as a child is a great predictor of how you manage all kinds of difficult situations later in life,” said Bessel van der Kolk, a professor of psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine who has been researching post-traumatic stress since the 1970s. He is the founder of the Trauma Research Foundation in Boston.
Worthy cause or a belief in something greater than oneself — religiously or spiritually — has a resilience-enhancing effect, as does the ability to be flexible in your thinking.

“Many, many resilient people learn to carefully accept what they can’t change about a situation and then ask themselves what they can actually change,” Dr. Southwick said. Conversely, banging your head against the wall and fretting endlessly about not being able to change things has the opposite effect, lessening your ability to cope.
Interviews with large numbers of highly resilient individuals — those who have experienced a great deal of adversity and have come through it successfully — show they share the following characteristics.

They have a positive, realistic outlook. They don’t dwell on negative information and instead look for opportunities in bleak situations, striving to find the positive within the negative.
They have a moral compass. Highly resilient people have a solid sense of what they consider right and wrong, and it tends to guide their decisions.

They have a belief in something greater than themselves. This is often found through religious or spiritual practices. The community support that comes from being part of a religion also enhances resilience.

They are altruistic; they have a concern for others and a degree of selflessness. They are often dedicated to causes they find meaningful and that give them a sense of purpose.
They accept what they cannot change and focus energy on what they can change. Dr. Southwick says resilient people reappraise a difficult situation and look for meaningful opportunities within it.

They have a mission, a meaning, a purpose. Feeling committed to a meaningful mission in life gives them courage and strength.

They have a social support system, and they support others. “Very few resilient people,” said Dr. Southwick, “go it alone.”


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Note added at 4 ημέρες (2022-05-18 15:14:11 GMT)
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You're welcome, Haribert!
Note from asker:
Thank you, Anastasia, For your contribution!
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